Do You Have Mom Guilt?

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I think as parents we want to do the right thing and be the best parents to our children. 

 

We tend to be our own worst critic a lot of the time. We are the hardest on ourselves when it comes to judging: 

 

if we are doing a good job. 

 

“Am I spending enough time with my kids?”

 

“Was I too hard on them today?”

 

“I should have let them stay with me when they asked to sit with me instead of wanting some alone time.”

 

I. FEEL. THAT. 

 

We feel that guilt sometimes. Just creeps in on you. That shoulda coulda woulda. 

 

And when you see other parents with their children who seem to have it all together. They don’t seem to have the same struggles as you. They seem so patient. They don’t seem stressed or anxious like you. 

 

How do they do it? How do they seem to keep it cool? All while sporting that perfect outfit and hair-do?

 

Here I am in t-shirt and jeans with my hair thrown up, no makeup and still working on the baby fat from 4 years ago! 

But you know what you and that  other mom share? 

 

Love. You both love your children just as much. Your child is happy and healthy and beautiful! 

 

So what if you are not all put together. Does that mean you love your child less? NO! 

 

So what if your house looks like a tornado just crashed through it… Does that mean your children are not cared for? Absolutely not! 

 

STOP! Stop being so hard on yourself! Don’t listen to all the voices that pop in your head telling you your not doing good enough. You ARE good enough! 

 

Just you questioning if you are a good parent should make you see you are!

 

Think about that for a second!

 

It’s normal to question if you are doing the right thing. 

 

It’s not a bad thing if you want to make sure you are being the best version of yourself! 

 

But when it becomes you feeling like your a bad parent …realize that you are allowed to make mistakes.

 

No one is perfect!

 

Wanting alone time or getting after your kids does not make you a bad parent. You are allowed to have a bad day here and there. 

I want you to know that I know what it’s like to feel that way. I have been there and still have moments where I feel like I could have handled situations better. 

 

Do I think I am a terrible mother because I let my kids watch devices longer than the recommended time? No. I don’t. 

 

If it bothered you that you didn’t sit with them more?

 

Than remember tomorrow is a new day!

 

Tomorrow is another opportunity to do those things you wish you had the day before. Plan it out if you have to. Set time aside. 

 

But know that having these feelings are completely normal. A lot of parents experience this and you are not alone! 

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